What the?
If memory serves me, some time ago in the comments of one of my posts,
lelo or
syd, I don't remember which one, brought up the idea of needing a meter that would track the usage the word
fuck with in blogs. I remember this because I thought about writing a script to do that, and by I would write a script to do that, I mean Betty Please. Anyway, look I what I found. It tracks a fuckload of curse words too. I scored disappointingly low. I mean really, not even every 1 out of 3 pages contains cursing. Maybe I just don't write like I talk. I guess I should remedy that by posting more often.
Too Much Ninja Warrior?
I've been working kind of a lot of overtime the last few weeks, so Betty Please has been left to fend for herself at home. And by that I mean, she has left her stuff laying about everywhere because I haven't been home to nag her about picking it up. Now when I get stressed, as in having to work a lot of OT, my OCD kicks into overdrive and clutter drives me particularly crazy. More crazy than my usual crazy. Since I haven't been home much and I don't want to spend what little time I have with BP being grumpy, I'm trying not to let the clutter bother me. But I have my limits.
I finally snapped. In retrospect, I realize that I should have sweetly said something more along the lines of, "honey, would you mind putting away the stuff that is sitting on and around the bottom of the stairs, please. I'm afraid I'll trip over it, fall down the stairs and crash head first into the breakfast nook if I get up in the middle of the night." What could she do other than comply with my wish? But, instead it went down like this.
me: (in a, "I'm frustrated with the clutter" tone) Do you think you could remove the potentially hazardous obstacles from the stairs?
me: Please.
BP: Not if you ever hope to achieve total victory over the course.
me: (Trying not to laugh. God damn it don't laugh.) Total victory wasn't really my goal. Not crashing head first into the breakfast nook in the middle of the night was really more of what I was going for.
BP: Hmm. Well. Suite yourself then.
She did of course put the stuff away. But why must she always push my buttons?
A Word on The L Word
*WARNING* If you have not watched the season finale of The L Word, and you don't want to know what happened, STOP reading now.
All I have to say is that if they end the show next year by hooking up Shane and Jenny, as I was afraid was going to happen in so many episodes this season, I'm going to be pissed. I would say that I'll never watch it again, as I threatened earlier this year if they hooked them up, but it would sort of go with out saying. Being that next season is the last and all.
And was it just me, or was that scene at the beginning with Shane and Molly in bed a direct rip off of High Art, or what. Of course, I also wonder who wrote the "I never", Go Fish type scene, from the Subaru Ride episode. Is it like an inside thing for those us who have seen these movies, or is just that hard to write original material.
Perhaps a Good Thing We Don't Have Kids
There was commercial on the other day, it was some kind of PSA type of thing with a mother and her daughter, and the tag line was something like, "what will you tell your daughter about the Internet?"
BP: I'd tell her dicks dot com is not a sporting goods site.
me: that's some sound advice
BP: I'd also tell her not to go to googirls dot com either. Just don't even go there. Especially not from your work computer.
me: Googirls? dot com? Why? What? I mean, where did you even come up with that?
BP: Well I was typing google into the address bar, and I started thinking about something else...something about girls, and I don't know I just ended up with googirls.
me: so how bad is it?
BP: Just don't even go there. I just can't.
me: so it's pretty bad then
BP: Ah. Yeah.
Let me save the trouble, cause I know you're all dying to know. The description for googirlsdotcom is: massive movie archive for cum hungry sluts-facials, internals...I don't think I need to go any further, do I?
Now, For What You've All Been Waiting For...
I finally posted
U-Haul vs The Long Haul at
BlogHer. It's kinda all over the place, but hey it's a blog post, not a scientific research paper. While doing some research I found an interesting study by Dr. John
Gottman, that I'm going to have to look into
further because I found the results kind of shocking. The study showed that heterosexual relationships tend to last longer that homosexual ones, even in instances where homosexual marriage rights are granted. The study showed that gay men were 50% more likely to end a marriage/partnership than their straight counterparts, AND, and this is the really shocking part, lesbians were 50% more likely than gay men to end their marriages/
partnerships. Really? I'll have to do some real research on this subject, because I just find that really hard to believe. Though, maybe U-Hauling at the urge to merge, kills any change of couples who might have had a happy, life-long relationship.I don't know. And I never will. I can only speculate.
Sofa King
On the way to work this morning, I saw "SOFA KING GOOD" painted on a local pizza/sandwich store window. It cracked me right up. I had never heard, or seen, that before. About 2 minutes later, I heard
Bob&Tom make reference to Sofa King. Where the hell have I been that I have never heard that?
Uh Huh Her
Betty Please and I are totally excited, we got tickets to see Uh Huh Her. Don't know who
Uh Huh Her is? It's Leisha Hailey's (you know, Alice from The L Word), new band.
Now hurry up end of April, and get here.
BP loves hockey games
We went to a
hockey game last night with
Phollower and
Sylvia. Our seats are by one of the section entrances, a few rows up in the upper section, providing us a great view of the "
The Chill Girls" who stand and cheer in the aisle at the section entrances. My favorite Chill Girl was in our section for a while last night, so I pointed her to Betty Please.
me: [nudging BP] Hey look. It's that HOT Chill Girl.
BP: [gave me a look]
me: What? Am I being too pervy.
BP: [while pushing me out out of the way for a better look] yeah, you're being kinda pervy.
Oh, and a fight broke out on the ice that turned into a brawl. All ten skaters got penalties. 5 skaters got ejected. It took the refs about 20 minutes to figure out how to attribute all the penalties. It was awesome.
Delayed Post, Again
I know, I said I'd post the U-Haul post so you can read how I mangled the informal data of the relationship survey that I posted, but then Sally Kern had to go give that ridiculous speech, and I felt compelled to write about that instead. So, this week's BlogHer post is
Sally Kern's anti-gay rant, The world is now listening. I was a little pressed for time, so it's not my best work, but I had to say something about her rant.
Is Kissing Cheating?
This week's episode of The L Word got me thinking about, "is kissing cheating?" For me, I guess it would depend on the kiss and the situation as to whether or not I would consider it cheating. I certainly don't think of it as the same type of breach as sleeping with someone else. Maybe it's just that I have such a hard time imagining that BP would do such a thing that I can't even put myself in the frame of mind to give an honest answer. I think that if she were to kiss someone else and it was just a "moment," I don't think I'd be all that bothered by it. Now if it was more than a "moment" and she was actually in love with someone else, well obviously that's whole nother story.
As for this week's episode, it's no mystery that I am not a Jenny fan, but holy christ did I enjoy that scene with Jenny and her new gf the actress.
Anyway. What do you think, is kissing cheating?
Delay in Posting
A quick update for all who wanted a link to my next relationship post on
BlogHer, it won't be up until next week. I had to work overtime all week end, and Monday and Tuesday, so I didn't have time to give full thought in writing U-Haul vs The Long Haul. Instead, I posted a
Lesbian Movie Guide. I should be able to get it done for next week. I'll post the link when it's up next week.
Cleric! We Need a Cleric!
Sad news for us geeks,
Gary Gygax died yesterday at the age of 69. For those who don't know who Gary Gygax is, he is the co-creator of
D&D. His imagination created a world for all of us geeks to play in, in all of our geeky glory. From paper and dice to LARPing.
And no, I do not LARP. Geez, how geeky do you think I am.
I think we all should get some bonus XP or something. You know, for the grief.
edit* This is how the news is going down in my D&D group via email.
lkmanitou: So Sad!
http://www.cnn.com/2008/TECH/03/04/obit.gygax.ap/index.htmlPhollower: The article should have said that he's at 0 HP.
Nate: -10
me: I'm guessing they must have been running a new campaign since he didn't have a cleric with a resurrect spell.
lkmanitou: He needed a more lenient DM - find a potion of vapor form or fudge critical damage from a two handed axe on a squishy rogue....
bauhaus
Oh my god. How psyched was I to hear that one of my all time favorite bands,
Bauhaus, has a new album out. TOTALLY psyched, that's how.
While looking on youtube for Bauhaus videos, I found a video of Trent Reznor and Peter Murphy doing Bela Lugosi's Dead, live. Which reminds me, I've always wanted to have a band called "The Undead, Live." Anyway,since NIN is one of my other all time favorite bands, and I used to have huge crushes on both Trent Reznor and Peter Murphy, I had to watch this video.
Is it just me, or is Trent Reznor starting remind anyone else of Henry Rollins these days? Man has he bulked up.
She's Lucky She's Cute
me: Have you noticed that I've stopped nagging you about picking up your sock, and just started picking them up myself?
BP: Yeah I have. It's been kind of disappointing actually.
My Answers
Thanks to everyone who has answered my questions about relationships. You guys rock! Your answers are all very interesting, and will be quite helpful. I won't be working on post in earnest until Tuesday night, so feel free to answer the questions if you haven't already.
It
occurred to me that if I'm asking you all to post your answers to these relationship questions, it's only fair that I post mine as well. So here you go.
1. Are you in a happy and healthy long-term committed relationship or marriage? If so, how long have you been together? And how old were you when you started the relationship?
YES, Betty Please and I have a happy and healthy relationship. We've been together for 15 years. I was 21 and she was 20 when we started dating.
2. How long did you date before you moved in together? And I mean actually moving in, both being on the lease and sharing expenses, not just having sleep overs all the time.
We dated for a little more than 3 years before we moved in together.
3. How long did you date before you committed to one another to be exclusive? How long before you made a life-long, long-term, or marriage commitment?
We dated 3 or 4 months before we were exclusive. We both knew pretty quickly that this was going to be THE relationship, but since we had the rest of our lives together we didn't want to rush it. Though we were both committed to each other pretty much from the beginning, I'm going to say the big commitment was made when we moved in together.
4. Was your relationship long distance before you moved in together and/or made a long-term commitment?
No. We lived about a 5 minute walk away from each other.
5. Is this your first and only long term committed relationship? If not, how long did the
previous one last and how old were you when you split up?
This is a first and only long
termer for both of us.
6. At what point in a relationship do you think the term should change from girlfriend/boyfriend to partner/spouse/husband/wife?
I think the term partner/spouse/husband/wife should be used only after couples have merged their lives and made a life-long commitment.
7. What do you think is most important to maintaining a happy relationship?
Communication and the ability to be objective, truly appreciating one another for who we are as individuals and what we do for each other and for us, sense of humor, shared interests, enjoying spending time together, and of course, lots of sex.
And as a side note, I read my answers to
BP and she thinks I'm not being honest in my answers because she can't believe that I didn't list sex first.
8. Did you experience the "7 year itch" in this or a previous relationship? If yes, how old were you when you went through the "7 year itch?"
Though neither one of us actually cheated, we both experienced the "7 itch." We both had a really difficult time in our late 20's. There was never a doubt that we loved each other then, but it took a real commitment to stay together and the space we each needed to make it through. It really sucked at the time, but it made us a much stronger, happier couple.
